I like you, Like You.
I caught a bit of a David Duchovny interview the other day, and something he said struck me. The interviewer asked him what the secret to his successful marriage with actress Tea Leoni was ; his reply, although simple enough, was rather striking. "We still like each other".
How many people can say that about their partners, years down the road of marriage?
We still like each other.
Huh.
HeartSmiles
I don't know if anyone knows this about me, but I Love relfecting...I reflect on everything, almost to the point of obsession. My best moments are when I'm travelling....on the bus, train, car; for whatever reason, moving in some sort of vehicle enhances my capacity for relfection.
As I've been travelling quite a fair bit of late, I've inevitably started reflecting a lot more. In these past few weeks, theyS've turned almost solely to the thought of what makes me happy, where do I find joy, the little things that make my heart smile. As such, I've compiled a mini list here...now, this list is only a fraction of the thousands of things that make me happy. So, lets just say, at the time of posting this, these are the few random ones that sprung to mind.
1. Making someone laugh.
2. Perfectly buttered toast.
3. The air in Manhattan after 8 pm on a crisp autumn night.
4. My dog sleeping on my tummy.
5. The sight, smell & sounds of my home on Christmas Morning.
6. The remembrance of laughter - "re-laughing".
7. Receiving packages.
8. The awareness of being loved.
9. Liva.
10.Eves-dropping on conversations among strangers.
11. London.
12. People doing unexpected things: I saw a lady skip to the train in Grand Central; a child squeeling "this is so exciting!" at nothing in particular..
13. A baby clutching my finger / falling asleep in my arms.
14. Looking up at the person across/next to you & realizing you have a friend for life.
15. Dimple (the person).
16. Dimples on guys (the facial feature).
17. 3/4-boiled eggs (yes, I detest 1/2 boiled, while full boiled just isn't perfect enough).
18. Christmas Carols.
19. Private jokes.
20. The surge of energy as a crowd of people cross the street when the 'Walk'-light flashes green.
21. Books that make me warm in the middle & my toes curl with delight.
22. Random conversations with strangers.
23. Receiving letters / emails (that are Not 'fwd:..."s) .
24. Taking a really good picture.
25. Having dinner with my entire family.
26. The air inside places of worship, especially churches.
27. Cooking for others.
28. Conversations that are deep, silly, fun and precious.
29. Black & white pictures.
30. Giving a damn good presentation.
31. Singing with a church full of people.
32. Friends.
33. Replaying conversations in my head.
34. Correctly saying something in a foreign language.
35. Bemidji.
36. Romantic poems...not corny B.S, but really, Really good stuff (re: kahlil gibran, ingrid trobisch, rumi...)
37. Dogs.
38. My dog.
39. A well-dressed man.
40. Daydreaming.
41. Lines (from a book/movie/person/song) that make my heart pause for a second, while my mind attempts to grasp the greatness of it.
42. Singing along to songs.
43. Learning something new about myself.
44. Laughing till I'm out of breath, my sides hurt & my cheeks ache.
45. The feel of really clean teeth.
46. Good perfume.
47. A smile from a stranger.
48. Being proud of my work.
49. Hugs.
50. Walking down the street with music playing in the background that matches my mood perfectly.
What makes Your heart smile?
Deep Meaningful Insight Into How The X-Files Contributed Positively To My Life (The title also known as "TXF-Rox")

This is in reaction to Franpei's "An-X-Phile...? you've got some explaning to do, tootsie". Now, I'm not exactly sure what it is she wanted explained, but it got me thinking, and then it got my typin...so here's a few -albeit long- explanations...
1. At the ripe old age of 11, I was a pro at surfing the net, changing all my computer settings to x-files related themes (sounds/pictures/...my computer would say "they are shutting us down, scully" as Windows shut down), improved my typing skills...and many more. Hence,it honed my IT skills.
2. I read...a Lot. It doesn't matter that it was mainly XF- related material...the point is, I was a kid hooked to reading, and learning...yes, it made me a Geek, and how proud I am of that!
3. I learned self-censorship. Haha, yes, if any of you have checked out x-files fanfiction, you know there's lots of stuff 12 year olds shouldn't be reading. And having only myself to restrict what I was reading, I was careful not to read
things I thought I shouldn't. (Ok so basically, I stuck to UST and didn't venture into RST till I was in my later teen years).
4. I developed a deep attraction to clever, passionate guys. Unfortunately,they also tended to carry around alot of emotional baggage (which has made me worry about myself)...this is evident in that all my "fictional-character-crushes" tend to have a similar profile; brilliant, passionate, angst-heavy, emotionally scarred....; Mulder (duh), Dr. Carter (ER) Jack (Lost) & perhaps even House (ahem).
5. Clever women kick ass, and are damn sexy (have you met Scully?)(Btw, I'm the 'clever woman' in this. So spot the lesson?).
6. Where else would I have learned words like "syzgy", "prometheus" "autoerotic asphyxiation" and 'azygus_nexus' (my screen name on an XF board when i was 13)?

Why did the chicken cross the road?
Cigarette Smoking Man :::blows puff of smoke::: There was no chicken.
Fox Mulder: No government agency has jurisdiction over the chicken. The chicken is out there, Scully, and we will find it.
7. Developed a love for science...although I'd never grow to be good at it, TXF drummed into me a deep love for learning about science ; reading the real scientific explanations behind TXF episodes taught me ALOT.
8.Insight into Native American life; because of episodes like Anasazi and characters like Albert Hosteen, I learned about Navajo life, 'code-talkers' that were used in WWII, Native American religious practices & way of life...this would later lead me to do a project on NA-religions in Uni, a paper & presentation that turned out to be ass-kickingly good.
9. Humor - some of the funniest lines ever to be said on TV came from the x-files. I have no doubt that my sense of humor has been influenced by dialogue from TXF.
10. Research: As a kid, I didn't understand alot of what went on in TXF episodes, so, being an "X-Phile", as soon as the episode was over, I'd go online & read up as much as I could about the focus of that week's episode.
11. Fixing the VCR: I taped every episode of TXF, and became pretty much the only one who could figure out the VCR at home, hooking it up to the TV, changing the settings...(it sounds simple, but it is NOT when you are a kid!).
12. Cataloguing: Developed a system for organizing my XF tapes.
13. Saving money: I'd save money so that I'd have enough to buy blank tapes for my episodes...note: my allowance wasn't exactly huge.
14. Inspired my writing...when I was 10 I wrote a short story called "Beyond Comprehension", about alien abductions; when I was 16 we had to write an English essay that ended with the line "and together they accomplished it", my essay turned into a 3000-word story that involved the characters of Mulder & Scully on a case,
where the last line was meant to reflect their complex & absolutely fantastic partnership; In my last sem of university, my final paper for Psychophysiology/Perception was written as a part of a scene for TXF (no, it was Not plagiarized!).
15. XF-fanfic definitely formed my perceptions of love & romance. Some people have "Sweet Valley", others have Mills & Boons, I had writers like Leyla Harrison/Anne Haynes/ Sheryl Martin...sigh, good times.
16. It has made me a sucker for clever-subtle innuendo & witty comebacks.
17. Patience: Do you know what torture my soul went through knowing that the new
season of TXF would only be released in Malaysia one year after it's US release? Do you? Huh? DO YOU?!
18. An appreciation for private/in-jokes...ah, the bond that is the X-Phile community. The subtle comments, glances, every little detail nit picked, enjoyed and laughed/mused over...
19. Memory skills: Although I could never memorize anything relating to Kimia, or
whatever subject I loathed but had to learn, I could still easily memorize all episode & character names & details from every season.
20. Memories.
I'm sure there are a thousand other ways TXF inspired me, changed me, entertained me...and for all you skeptics out there who think its just another show, I want you to think about books that have affected you profoundly, music pieces, conversations, people...and think about the effect of that on someone at the age of 9, an effect
that 13 years later, is still so strong. Sure, it's crazy...but aih,
it's good-crazy, I say.
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How many X-Philes does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
- 23 to look at the bulb and get distracted because they realize it reminds them of a scene from The X-Files.
"It sucks to be single, unemployed and almost twenty-three...yes, it sucks to be me!"
No, dear, no...this is not *K going through a bad spell; the above, although uncannily descriptive of yours truly's state (without the negativity, I must add), is not a personal lament, but rather a line from a fabulous Broadway show - Avenue Q!

Yes, I spent a lovely evening with 'fellow-New Yorkers' Princeton, KateMonster, Rod, Christmas Eve, Gary Coleman, Bad-Idea-Bears and Lucy The Slut (among other charming friends!) in their homey neighbourhood of Avenue Q.
We danced (well, they did) and sang (I kinda did) and laughed (we did) along to many issues close to the heart of fresh grads, the unemployed, singletons & Gary Coleman (yes, he deserves a category to himself). Much wisdom was shared by the delightful characters and their puppet-selves. Below are some highlight-snippets, most of which won't make much sense without the greater context. But, this is my blog, and it'll make sense to me.

From: "I Wish I Could Go Back to College"
Kate: I wish I could go back to college, life was so simple back then.
Nicky: What would I give, to go back and live, in a dorm with a meal plan again?
Princeton: I wish I could go back to college, in college you know who you are. You sit in the quad and think, Oh my God, I am totally gonna go far!
All: How do I go back to college? I don't know who I am anymore!
Princeton: I wanna go back to my room and find a message in dry erase pen on the door...whoa whoa whoa...I wish I could just drop a class.
Nicky: Or get into a play.
Kate: Or change my major.
Princeton: Or (beep) my T.A.!
All: I need an academic advisor to point the way! We could be sitting in the computer lab, four a.m. before the final paper is due, cursing the world cuz I didn't start sooner, and seeing the rest of the class there too! I wish I could go back to college! How do I go back to college?
Princeton: I wish I had taken more pictures.
Nicky: But if I were to go back to college, think what a loser I'd be. I'd walk through the quad and think, Oh my God!
All: These kids are so much younger than me!
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"There's a fine line between love & a waste of your time" - KateMonster
"If you re-arrange the letters in 'unemployment', you spell 'opportunity'!" - Gary Coleman
"What do you do with a B.A. in English? What is my life going to be? Four years of college and plenty of knowledge, Have earned me this useless degree. I can't pay the bills yet, 'cause I have no skills yet; The world is a big scary place, But somehow I can't shake the feeling I might make A diff'rence to the human race." - Princeton
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From: Screen shots (There are scenes on a TV, as is done on Sesame Street when they have a new word to learn, or whatever...)
"come-mitment" ----> hillarious if you know the scene before that (Ok, I'll tell you, the scene before that involves KateMonster & Princeton 'doing the pretzel'.)
"Five night stands" -picture of five night stands- / -four night stands removed- / "One night stand"
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Ah, a lovely evening at the theatre, followed by a stroll about Broadway, conversations with strangers, a latte & some pie. Plus, I spotted the star of the show taking a walk along my route with some pals of his - Bonus! I'm a happy camper, I say. *insert wink, with wink-music* ; )
Justice Served, Garnished with Hope

Irene wins libel suit, awarded RM200,000
Beh Lih Yi
Oct 26, 07 1:01pm
Migrant-labour activist Irene Fernandez won her defamation suit against Malay-language daily Utusan Malaysia at the Kuala Lumpur High Court today and was awarded RM200,000 in damages.
“I am of the opinion that the article was not a piece of responsible journalism,” justice Tee Ah Sing said in concluding a 104-page judgment that took close to two hours to read out.
The judge rejected the defence put forward by the defendants’ counsel, including that the article was written with justification, fair comment and qualified privilege.
The judgment was greeted with applause from the public gallery, which include a full force of staff from the Tenaganita, which Fernandez heads.
Also present were her sister Aegile and regional migrant group Caram-Asia regional coordinator Cynthia Gabriel.
As soon as the court adjourned, Fernandez, 61 - walking with the aid of a cane - went up to hug one of her lawyers, M Moganambal (photo, right), and both broke into tears of joy.
The decision came 11 years after she filed the suit against the two defendants - Umno-owned Utusan Malaysia and its writer, Johardy Ibrahim - over an article published on Sept 20, 1995.
The article claimed that Fernandez had failed to cooperate with the police in their investigation into allegations in a memorandum.
At a press conference in August 1995, Fernandez had revealed allegations of alleged torture and deaths in Malaysian detention camps for illegal immigrants. This has led to a police investigation against her for spreading "false news".
In the suit, Fernandez had argued that the article was written with malice and that its meaning was that she was deliberately evading the police, was insincere and lacked integrity.
The article has also portrayed her as a disloyal citizen and cited her for treason for tarnishing the country’s image by bringing up these issues.
Defence rejected
In its defence, Utusan Malaysia denied defaming her, stating that the article was based on facts.
However, in rejecting this today, Justice Tee ruled that the article was filled with a “tone of sensation” and found that there was no attempt made to seek comment from Fernandez.
“The article has serious allegations of dishonesty and lack of integrity. The plaintiff (Fernandez) said she suffered adverse consequences because of the publication of the article and the conduct of the defendants,” he said.
“From the time of libel to the verdict, the defendants did not attempt to retract the libel and verify the truth before or after publishing the article. (There was also) absence and refusal of correction, retraction and apology despite the plaintiff’s demand.”
In assessing damages, the judge - who has presided over the three-year case since November 2004 - acknowledged that Fernandez is a “well-known human rights activist” for her work both domestically and internationally.
He then awarded damages amounting to RM200,000 with costs and interest.
Apart from Moganambal, Fernandez was also represented by Malik Imtiaz Sarwar, while Mubashir Mansor and Trevor Padasian from law firm Skrine & Co appeared for the defendants.
Mubashir told Malaysiakini he would wait for his client’s instruction as to whether to file an appeal.
Utusan Group senior manager (legal/company secretary) Sharina Saidon was also present.
Outside the courtroom, a jovial Fernandez said she was “really, really happy and feel vindicated”.
“I’m one for freedom of expression, but in that freedom of expression, you have to be responsible in your writing,” she told reporters.
“I am glad he recognised my activism and our work at Tenaganita, a struggle that we go through each day to make a difference in the life of the most oppressed community in the country.”
On the quantum of damages, Fernandez pledged to plough this back to the community through Tenaganita programmes.
“The quantum is not important, whatever we receive will go back to the community,” she said.
Appeal date pending
Despite her victory, Fernandez remains convicted under the Printing Presses and Publications Act for maliciously publishing false news on the alleged death and tortures in the detention camps.
Fernandez, who was convicted in 2003 but granted a stay of execution from her one-year imprisonment, has since appealed the decision in the high court.
Due to her criminal conviction, Fernandez - who is also PKR supreme council member - was barred from contesting in the last general election in 2004.
Asked about the progress of the case, she said she was waiting for a hearing date to be fixed.
“I hope that my appeal will be brought forward and that can be heard as well. I believe justice will also be done,” she remarked.
She hoped her appeal would be heard in time for her to have the opportunity to contest the coming general election. Fernandez had previously run for the Subang parliamentary seat, but lost.
Malik said the judgment, was the “clearest” to date on what is deemed responsible journalism and stressed the suit was filed to promote press freedom, and not to suppress it.
**Taken from www.malaysiakini.com



